If you had to describe yourself, which words would you choose?
Mum? Wife? Friend? Business owner?
Why would you choose certain descriptions over others? Just out of curiosity. 😉
How do you see your identity as a mother?
When people ask me to describe myself, I usually say I’m a mum, a wife, a translator and writer.
But when I was a young mother I struggled with how to answer this question.
You see, I went through seasons where I looked after the children and the house with no outside commitments and other seasons where I did freelance work as a self-employed translator, writer, and English teacher.
Because of this, at times I wondered what to call myself. Was I Anna, the housewife/part-time freelancer?
Sometimes I found it easier just to say I was a stay-at-home mother because in effect I was always at home, but my translation/teaching work made the term “stay-at-home mum” seem inaccurate somehow.
The truth was I was hung up on semantics because deep down I was insecure about who I was. I confused role and relationships with identity.
In time though, God showed me that my true identity was not based on my roles or my earthly relationships, but on who I was as a child of God.
That was my identity. Not the fact that I was a wife and a mother. Or the fact that I looked after the home. Or that I worked as a translator.
Yes, as a question of language I say “I am a mother”, “I am a wife” or “I am a writer”, but I know deep down that those relationships or roles don’t define my identity.
The truth about my identity being based only on who I am in Christ came progressively, but when I finally understood this truth, I came to a liberating conclusion:
My true identity is not that of a mother. It’s that of a daughter.
My identity didn’t shift when I became a mother (even though my thoughts, feelings and priorities certainly did!). My identity changed once in my life: when I put my faith in Jesus, as my saviour.
That is what changed me and my standing before God, once and forever.
Who are you?
So, I’ve already stated that my identity is in Jesus. I am a child of God. I am a new creation.
Is that who you are? If so, I have wonderful news to give to you about your identity in Christ.
- saved (John 5:24)
- new (2 Corinthians 5:17)
- perfect (Hebrews 10:14)
- child of God (John 1:12)
- heard (1 Peter 3:12)
- gifted (Ephesians 2:10)
- loved (Romans 8:38-39)
Isn’t that awesome?
I believe that trully getting to the depts of who we are as children of God, releases us from so much insecurity and fear.
I know it has in my life.
For more content about identity check out My Real Mother Identity – the Shocking Truth.
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