Guest blog post – Kaelin Scott
When you look in the mirror, what do you see?
If you’re anything like me, you probably focus on the flaws. The little imperfections. The things that make you different.
I’ve never been a confident person. If I’m being honest, that’s one of my greatest weaknesses. I’ve never really thought of myself as beautiful. I don’t know where it stemmed from, but I’ve always been self-conscious.
When I look in the mirror, I see the things I don’t like. I see what I would change if given the chance. I see what I consider flaws.
Too many freckles. A long, pointy nose. The combination of short stature and a baby face that makes me look like a kid. I hardly notice the fact that I have pretty blue eyes and a nice smile and lovely golden hair.
No, I’m too worried about those other things. Wishing they were different. Wishing I was different.
As women, we have a tendency to play the comparison game way too much. We think we should look more like someone else, so we constantly put ourselves down. We can always find something negative about ourselves, even if other people hardly notice.
In fact, people might actually like those things about us, but we’re too insecure to believe them. I mentioned a few of mine above. For you, it might be something totally different. Yet we all notice things about ourselves that we consider ugly and flawed.
God’s beautiful design
But God doesn’t make mistakes.
He created each of us, just the way we are. In His sight, we are all beautiful beyond compare. Every little blemish is there because He put it there on purpose. But He doesn’t see them the way we do.
He sees them as little brushstrokes that make up a masterpiece. He sees us as beautiful. Flawless. Perfect.
We need to start living like we believe it!
Our example to our kids
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want my insecurities to rub off on my daughter – or my son for that matter. I want my children to be confident in themselves. Not just their looks, but who they are in Christ.
I don’t want to set a poor example by putting myself down or criticizing myself. I want to show them what it means to have confidence and see myself through Jesus’ eyes. But I can’t set that example if I’m still worrying about my perceived flaws and imperfections.
It’s time to celebrate our uniqueness. Isn’t it amazing that none of us are the same? We’re all different, and we’re all beautiful in our own way. No one else is exactly like you, and I think that’s definitely something to be proud of.
Maybe you don’t have the athletic body of another girl, or the clear complexion, or the elegance. Maybe you don’t look like the girl on the magazine cover. But that’s okay!
You look exactly the way God created you to, and that is pretty special.
“You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.” Song of Solomon 4:7